Upon first meeting Kenzie Veurink, I was flooded with absolute genuine love and this sort of authentic kindness I had not experienced in years. She was radiant and powerful in the love she poured onto me—and onto other women. How rare is it to encounter a woman (in real life) who actually cares about other women?! Kenzie is an extremely talented hair colorist, a wild-hearted, amazingly free spirited lover, and one seriously unique woman who lives in her power and truth. This woman is meant to be heard, to create beauty, and to inspire women to live as their own selves without even one little itch of insecurity or shame.
What is your life's goal?
It's hard to sum up your entire life into one goal. But if I had to try; it would just be to enjoy it. I try to find the goodness in every morning, every afternoon, every night. Some days are harder than others, but there are more opportunities for enjoyment than most even realize. I want to milk every moment for what it's worth. To take advantage of every chance I get, to treat others with as much kindness as possible. To enjoy when the leaves start to turn green and the air smells fresh. To watch smiles fade from people's faces after they're done laughing and to wait for them to start again. To overhear conversations from people on their first date. There is so much to enjoy, and I want to do all of it.
What makes you feel most empowered?
Empowerment is different for everyone. For me personally I find uplifting others empowering. No matter what that means to them, I find strength in offering support. I also find it empowering to show my body off. I like my body, I like my curves and my hair. I find empowerment in embracing that and not being modest about it. In my household nudity was just a part of life growing up. I remember the first sleep over one of my friends went to the bathroom to change and thought "well okay, you do that I'm just gonna change out here" and I've managed to maintain some kind of that mindset into the rest of my life. I find it empowering to have an adult conversation about opposing views. Where I can just sit down and discuss our differences without judgement and maybe learn something. Those are things I find empowering.
What led you to become the woman you are today?
My life has been a continuous roller coaster. I grew up in Detroit and moved to Charlotte about 10 years ago. I've spent my life trying to maintain a positive mindset despite whatever hardships I had going on. I've been through a lot, we've all been through a lot. My 23 years on this Earth have brought me the best and the worst. I won't dive into every shit thing that's happened to me, but instead focus on the goodness. No matter what was going on, the sun still rose in the morning. That's what made me into this person. Holding on to the light when everything else was dark. I've made some good decisions and I've made some bad ones, haven't we all. I think my biggest influence has been simply keeping a positive inner voice.
How do you embrace your sexuality as a woman?
Embracing my sexuality has always come easy to me. I am proud to be a bisexual babe, happy to have a partner who embraces that. I feel like the biggest part of my life that helped me find my true sexuality was being in a polyamorous relationship. I learned so much about communicating, sex, dating, letting people down, getting let down, and having a full open sexual experience. I'm currently monogamous, which I also love. I've always been a "I'll try anything once" kinda person so that's played into my sex life as well. I think sex is fun, and I embrace all of it.
Photo by Katherine Kirchner
What are your self-love and self-care rituals?
Treat 'yo self days are a regular thing in my life. Gotta take care of #1 (that's you, you're number one). I do lots of facemasks, baths, shopping trips. But my self-love rituals are a little deeper than my surface level self-care ones. My boyfriend and I have been doing yoga nightly which has brought me some amazing things for my mental state. I talk all day everyday, so it's nice to just unwind and stretch. I also journal almost every night. It helps me collect my thoughts and it's nice to have something to look back on to track your growth. I just write about whatever I'm feeling and what happened that day. Just whatever I want too in the moment without too much thought.
What is your biggest piece of advice for other women?
My biggest advice for other women is honestly just to love other women. Compliment a strangers shoes, help put an old lady's groceries in her car, be there when a friend needs you. We are all in this together trying to love our own best lives, the only way to do that is by helping our sisters live theirs.
Photo by Deborah Lee
What do you love about your body?
I love a lot about my body. I've spent years not loving it, so to finally be able to see some good, it's great. I love my tattoos, first off. They're all important pieces of me and happy memories. I like my butt, I like all butts. I like that my body has carried me through ups and downs and hasn't let me down yet.
What are you looking forward to?
I'm looking forward to enjoying the warm weather, I'm looking forward to camping in the woods and dancing on the beach. I'm looking forward to watching my friends families grow with babies and dogs. I'm looking forward to driving with the windows down and breathing in the summer nights while screaming the words to old punk songs. There's so much waiting for us in the future and I'm looking forward to all of it.